I have gotten a lot of comments as of late about what a great mom I am. It’s weird when I get these comments, I don’t know how to response besides with an awkward “so are you”. It’s not that I have a hard time accepting compliments (I do), but when people say them I feel like they are comparing my momming skills to theirs and are finding themselves lacking. When they say these comments I am not doing anything extraordinary. I am giving my daughter a high five for throwing something at her older siblings, but she threw it really far. I might be half way listening to my son tell me an elaborate story that he has told me 7 times already in the past hour. I might be telling someone I have to call them back because I am in the middle of chauffeuring my step kids and their friends around.
What people don’t realize is that in my head there was something wrong with each and every action that they just complimented me on. I should have told Chloe not to throw that toy at her brother. I should have paused to listen to Evan’s story with my full attention, maybe then he wouldn’t repeat it to me again. I should have let Taylar and Brody ride with the friend in the friend’s parent’s car. All things that to me would make me a better parent.
As parents we tend to compare ourselves to other parents. Many times we find ourselves lacking, other times we find someone else lacking. When I received these compliments it made me feel good. It made me for a second feel like maybe I wasn’t screwing up this whole parenting thing like I thought I was. There are so many things as parents we have to learn how to deal with. The key word to that is LEARN. We learn how to be a parent, and that means we make a lot of mistakes. If we are constantly critiquing ourselves and each other then we are taking a lot of the joy out of parenting. Instead, we are just adding in more stress.
So, I want to challenge everyone who reads this recipes. Make a point to verbalize to others that they are a good parent. You don’t have to make it something lengthy or tear jerking. But when you see a parent doing something that makes you smile, tell them they are doing a good job. If you see a parent struggling with their kids out in public, tell them they are doing a good job. There isn’t a parent alive who has never dealt with a meltdown or tears when they were in a public place. So when you see that kid kicking and screaming as they are dragged out the store instead of looking at them with judgement, tell that parent to hang in there because they are doing a good job.
Now, to the recipe. I tried several gummy recipes, and I could never find one that really tasted that great and set right. I tweaked them, and found out the key to a great homemade gummy is refrigeration time, and mixing the gelatin in like you would a roux. So don’t skip that step because your gummies will be slimy.
I put so much effort into figuring out these gummies because Chloe-oe-oxen free has a major sweet tooth. One we have undoubtedly encouraged. Well, I shouldn’t say “we”. I should say my husband and father-in-law encouraged it. I stress about her eating habits. Not because she is unhealthy, but because I know my thyroid disease is hereditary and I want her to learn healthy eating habits from a young age. So, when I share with friends and family that I make my own fruit snakes they will of course compare our parenting skills and say “You’re such a great mom”. In my head I am thinking “It’s freaking ridiculous that I have go to such lengths to balance her diet. I am totally failing. I wish I would have taught her to not be a picky eater like did”
What ever your reasons for finding this recipe and wanting to make your own fruit snacks, just know YOU ARE A GREAT PARENT. I hope you enjoy these. They are so easy to make, and great to pop in the fridge before you head to bed because they will be done in the morning. For this batch of gummies I chose blueberries, pineapple, and strawberry because that’s what I had on hand. Evan loved helping me make them just before bed, and when he woke up this morning he went straight to the fridge to see if they were done.
Let me know how you like them and if you made any alterations/substitutions. I’d love to hear how they turned out.